And Naomi said unto her two daughters in law, Go, return each to her mother’s house: the Lord deal kindly with you, as ye have dealt with the dead, and with me.
The Lord grant you that ye may find rest, each of you in the house of her husband. Then she kissed them; and they lifted up their voice, and wept.
And they said unto her, Surely we will return with thee unto thy people.
And Naomi said, Turn again, my daughters: why will ye go with me? are there yet any more sons in my womb, that they may be your husbands?
Turn again, my daughters, go your way; for I am too old to have an husband. If I should say, I have hope, if I should have an husband also to night, and should also bear sons;
Would ye tarry for them till they were grown? would ye stay for them from having husbands? nay, my daughters; for it grieveth me much for your sakes that the hand of the Lord is gone out against me.
And they lifted up their voice, and wept again: and Orpah kissed her mother in law; but Ruth clave unto her.
And she said, Behold, thy sister in law is gone back unto her people, and unto her gods: return thou after thy sister in law.
And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:
Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the Lord do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me.
When she saw that she was stedfastly minded to go with her, then she left speaking unto her.
– Ruth 1:8-18
In this life, you will hardly make any meaningful progress without working together with other people. One crucial thing that determines the strength of the relationships people live with is the level of trust they repose on one another. Relationships that produce lasting benefits are the ones built on mutual trust and respect. Such was the relationship developed between Ruth and her mother in-law, Naomi. At the critical, testing moment of that relationship, Ruth said to her mother in-law, “Entreat me not to leave you or to return from following you; for where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God; where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the LORD do so to me and more also if even death parts me from you.”
On the subject of trust, Stephen Covey said, “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” As vital as trust is, far more relationships are forged on mutual suspicion and apprehension rather than trust. The potentials of the people in this kind of relationship are hardly ever maximized and the benefits latent in the relationships are hardly properly harnessed.
Covey offers a solution that you may put to good use. He says, “Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.” To gain the trust of others, be the first to show them that you trust them. When you sow trust as a seed, you will reap a bountiful harvest of trust.
- Search your heart and identify the weaknesses in your character. Ask for God’s help to overcome them.
CONFESSION: What I give multiplies back to me. As I begin to trust others, they will trust me in return.